How Can We Be So Unsure of Ourselves?

How can we be so unsure of ourselves that just one little incident or a talk with someone could completely change our perception of the person in concern?

Do we really not know ourselves, or are we just too afraid to make the call and stand by our decision?

Are we really stuck between not being able to decide what is good and what is bad for us or do we just want someone else to play the dice for us so that we will have that someone to blame when the tables turn?

Since when did we become such cowards who do not have the slightest trace of faith left in our own hearts?

Why have we stopped trusting our decisions?

When we meet someone, and we like them it is not just because of the physical appearances or the well-mannered composure or their calm demeanour or because of any of such other aspects. I believe, it is because they somehow appeal to your sub-conscious and you for once feel connected to them. A sub-conscious mind is a strong place that knows us better than we do. Its decisions are correct beyond doubt and its feelings are true beyond reason. This appeal is a feeling; it is an idea that has made its place in your heart and you start living it. You cannot simply start ignoring someone in a moment's time if they have made their place in your sub-conscious mind. No matter what you pretend to do in front of them, your heart will still beat faster just upon the thought of seeing them.

However, on the other hand, if you can really turn your feelings for someone upside down and that too just based upon a little incident or some things said, that were not quite expected by you, then trust me, you were never sure about your feelings for that person. Because, if you were, you would either love very hard or hate passionately; you would not know what grey is.

So, before you go out judging people based upon your imbalanced and mixed feelings and thoughts about someone, just try to spend a little time with yourself rather than anyone else. When you do this, you will get to know yourself better and then when you do meet the person who makes your cells dance, you will be sure of it because you are sure of yourself.

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